Third Phase—Sexual Union

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This brings us to the THIRD PHASE of lovemaking, that of sexual union. While the husband and wife are now joined in sexual union, care needs to be taken so that contact is made with the clitoris. While the penis will be stimulated by virtually any position or movement within the vagina, pressure and contact with the clitoris is essential for the woman to be able to come to climax—orgasm. In the male superior position, where the man is on top, this is best accomplished by the husband positioning his body higher up in relation to the wife’s body. If the man’s body is too low in relation to the wife’s body, there will be no contact with the clitoris. The wife should be able to indicate the extent of the raised position that provides more pleasure. The husband can easily adjust, focusing on what works best for his wife.

During sexual intercourse, the husband should also take care to support much of the weight of his own body, using his elbows and knees, taking care not to cause his wife discomfort. He should always strive to assume a position that is enjoyable for the wife—not merely one that is conducive for his own gratification. The wife must be free to move her hips. This means again that the man must be careful not to be too heavy, not to permit his full weight to rest, on his wife’s body. This is of paramount importance.

This phase of sexual union should be passionate and pleasurable for both the husband and the wife. It is in this union that the marriage partners are cleaved together in LOVE and have truly become ONE in the marriage bond—have become “one flesh.”

It has been noted earlier that many generations have existed without even the understanding that the wife is to be permitted enjoyment during sexual intercourse, just as much as is the husband. Ignorance of the clitoris, or that it even has a purpose and function, and the best way of bringing about intense pleasure by maximizing contact with it were virtually unknown.

It is worth noting that many have been the husbands in the past—and wives—who had never heard of the clitoris. Many decades as a marriage counsellor revealed confusion, ignorance and misunderstanding regarding a host of even such basic points.

For instance, many have not even understood that it is “permissible” for the wife to be on top during sexual relations, that this does not mean she is improperly taking or in this fashion usurping the lead from her husband. Many couples have failed to recognize that the female superior position is, in fact, often not only very “superior” to the enjoyment of some women—but also to their husbands.

This is but one example of the benefits derived when a couple is willing to communicate before and during the sex act. There are many others.

Fourth Phase—Orgasm

The FOURTH PHASE of intercourse and lovemaking is orgasm. While many have come to believe that achieving orgasm is the only thing in sex, it is not. By now, the reader understands this. However, the sexual union is ultimately consummated by orgasm—or climaxing—in which feelings and sensations are heightened to the very pinnacle of physical sensation. While this is not the only goal, it is certainly the overall objective for both partners.

While there can be exceptions due to unusual circumstances, recognize that orgasm is something that both mates should be able to experience virtually every time. The ideal is always for the husband and wife to strive to reach a climax at the same time, although this might not always occur as planned. Think of achieving this as something that takes practice, something that can be learned over time, and that may not be possible every time.

At the time of orgasm, the male ejects semen into the vagina (or into a condom), while the orgasm of the wife does not (usually) involve any kind of measurable discharge of fluid.

God designed for both partners to enjoy the privilege of marriage, and all couples should rid themselves of every kind of needless inhibition—and simply enjoy the blessings and bliss of God’s gift. Remember that God created female orgasm for the wife to be able to reach the pinnacle of pleasure in sexual contact, just as He did the husband, and that ideally this would occur simultaneously with him. Female animals have no such response—God uniquely designed this in the human female for her pleasure, and thus distinguished between female animals and female humans in yet one more way.

We have seen that God’s truth about marriage and understanding of sex have been repressed by false religion and blind theologians for many centuries, and they have in its place substituted the sex-is-shameful prudery. Remember, Satan cannot reproduce himself, and is jealous of puny human beings because they have a capacity that he does not. Thus, he has gone to great lengths to distort and pervert this God-intended pinnacle of sex.

But I emphasize yet one more time: With the unseen “god of this world,” Satan, guiding events from the background, this is certain to grow even worse, probably quickly, and in unimaginable ways. Of course, Christians are told to “watch” (Luke 21:36) such world conditions.

Conception Without Orgasm or Intercourse

As a side note, it is important to revisit a point mentioned earlier. Many have thought that conception cannot occur if there is no actual penetration of the penis or if the woman does not experience orgasm.

It must be recognized that conception can take place whether or not either of these things occurs. Impregnation results solely from the presence of semen released into the vagina, and this can also happen if it is deposited anywhere around the vestibule. You now realize that sperm were created to be resilient.

In past generations, young unmarried couples held the unwitting notion that they could approach the sex act short of union and avoid any risk of pregnancy, particularly if the female hymen remained unbroken. Yet, as long as semen is present, even near the vestibule, pregnancy is indeed possible, regardless of the fact that the woman supposedly “maintained her virginity.” (Of course, this same surprise of unexpected pregnancy for the same reason has also been sprung on married couples. Be careful of what is happening and where it is leading.)