Sexual Dysfunctions

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In a world cut off from God, having disobeyed His revealed health laws for centuries, the general state of mankind’s health has greatly degenerated. With 6,000 years of history have come various types of health problems that affect the sex organs and function. While it is not the purpose to cover and address every conceivable kind of sexual dysfunction, certain basic recognition, and what to do about it, is necessary.

As with other health problems, sexual dysfunctions and resulting difficulty are a reality, and will be for some who read this book. Those with general health problems that are affecting sexual activity are encouraged to read and study about their particular problem. Taking an active interest in improving one’s overall state of health can bring about a general improvement to many, if not most who are having difficulty.

Upon turning 30, I unexpectedly and suddenly developed a serious joint disease. Had it continued, quality of life as I knew it would have ended. Yet, this turned out to be a blessing because I was forced to spend hours studying what I could do to rid myself of the problem. What I learned led me to much better health than I had enjoyed prior to the arrival of this disease.

The same might be said for many other diseases and health problems, and this includes certain physical dysfunctions. If you suffer from a problem that affects your sex life, and for men this can mean difficulty holding an erection, do some research to determine what you can do. Consulting a physician may be advisable. There are many avenues and options to explore.

Of course, the reader must be extremely careful. There are endless books on the subject of sex. Distinguish between opinions and facts. Literature that presents more than just the facts can be confusing and offer “remedies” that will not help. Stick with the facts. Find out what the causes are and address them.

Certain health problems may be deeply rooted, but experience has shown that almost any health problem can be improved with proper effort and guidance—if one diligently addresses the cause. Some problems may be difficult to overcome, but with persistence, it can often be done.

Absent in Satan’s World

This level of passion and mutual love, just by the general nature of what is happening in such circumstances, is completely absent from pre-marital promiscuity, any kind of cheapened relationship with a prostitute or any other kind of sex outside marital partnership. Such illicit relations focus entirely upon self-gratification, without the giving of intimate love, honour and mutual respect, which are all non-existent within such degrading relationships.

Truly, God’s Way far exceeds the empty, hollow counterfeits of Satan’s mixed-up world. It is your duty to flee from the worldly influence of degradation that will inevitably rob you of the wonderful God-intended relationships of marriage and family. The unmarried should consider how crucial and precious are the many blessings that are in store for those who preserve themselves for marriage. Any premarital sex cripples and impedes the level of happiness that can only be enjoyed from these marital blessings.

Some husbands have the false notion that marriage has given them the right to satisfy their own desire for hasty, selfish gratification without considering the feelings of the wife. In such cases, no delay of waiting for lovemaking is allowed for her enjoyment and participation. Some have the idea that marriage obligates the wife to submit to being raped on demand! But remember that marriage as God designed it gives NO such rights for abuse. God designed the sexual union to be passionately enjoyed by both parties!

It is absolutely critical for the man not to ignore this much-needed time of lovemaking before proceeding with intercourse. I repeat: To dismiss this need—and it is actually a RESPONSIBILITY that every husband has toward his wife—could cause damage to the dry, unprepared membrane of the vaginal walls, and this will lead to pain and resentment, potentially very deep, on the part of the wife.

A husband who forces himself prematurely upon his wife is uncaring, abusive and self-cantered. Husbands, avoid this selfishness at absolutely all costs—and you will be grateful that you did. So will your wife!

GOD’S Seventh Commandment

The Seventh Commandment, referenced earlier, is “You shall not commit adultery.” Most people limit this command exclusively to sexual intercourse outside marriage. Adultery involves far more than going all the way to intercourse, and we need to take sufficient time to be sure this is understood.

Sexual intercourse or lovemaking consists of FOUR DISTINCT PHASES, in which one phase leads to the next. The FIRST PHASE consists of caressing, kissing and embracing, also known in the vernacular of recent times as “necking” and “petting.” (The other three phases will be explained near the end of the chapter, after first covering important points related to the first phase.)

Though from God’s perspective it is still as wrong today as it ever was, necking and petting used to be the limit to which young people would venture in what were, relatively speaking, more innocent times. Later, the term “they went the limit” (or “all the way”) meant that the limit had come to be beyond mere necking and petting. Therefore, today, in the twenty-first century, premarital sex is virtually the rule instead of the exception! When engaged in outside of marriage, the seemingly innocent act of necking and petting, of itself, directly VIOLATES God’s Seventh Commandment.

When understood, necking and petting are a vital part of the actual lovemaking, which is only to occur between married couples—husbands and wives—adults (from which even the very term adultery derives)!

Of course, most today would gasp at such a “prudish and out-dated” statement. They see no harm in a little innocent “fun.”

Yet, God deems this action a SIN because it does cause very serious harm to those involved. Understand this point well. Again, it is not that God somehow enjoys denying pleasures to humanity. Rather, He knows the long-term damage that results from breaking spiritual LAWS that He has put in force for our good. The effects are long-term and the curses are most real!

Certain conduct before marriage can, indeed, scar the marriage relationship later on. This will be covered more fully in the next chapter. But those who become involved in necking and petting outside marriage (and it is well-understood that most young people today do not even begin to think about stopping at this phase—and, of course, many now leap right past it) open themselves up for curses here and now, as well as robbing themselves of true marital bliss, which God makes possible for those who do not scar their potential of reaping His marvellous blessings.

The perceptions of sex appeal and arousal were designed to strengthen the MARRIAGE BOND—period. These interactive influences increase the mutual love between husband and wife, creating an intimacy that is reserved for that marriage bond.