34.What is to be the husband’s attitude toward his wife?

The husband is to love his wife with a self-sacrificing love just as Christ loves the Church with a self-sacrificing love.

When the husband sacrifices his own interests in order to benefit his wife it becomes easier for her to accept him as her head. When the wife is willing to receive her husband as her head it becomes easier for him to sacrifice his own desires on her behalf.

The idea of the wife being the "weaker vessel" is that she may not be able to control her emotions as readily as the man (this is not always true). When an irritating situation arises it is the man’s responsibility to keep the peace in the marriage and home. If he is willing to control his emotions and keep peace with his wife, overcoming his anger by the Spirit of the Lord, he will grow in the Lord.

If it is left to the wife to make peace she will become the stronger of the two. She will grow spiritually and her husband will remain a baby who must be pampered so he does not become angry and destructive.

The relationship of the stronger male (if such be the case) who governs by sacrificing himself for his wife gives us some faint idea of the relationship that exists between the Lamb and His Bride.